Love and in love are two very different things, so lets break it down.
You might want to read it two or three times before it makes sense, I did.
Loving someone is about how they make you feel.
Being in love is about how you make them feel.
Loving someone means you are concerned with how he/she makes you feel loved, special, or appreciated.
Being in love means you worry about how to make him/her feel loved as well, because that's equally as important to you.
- Now read it again.
You can read the full article here about 8 Differences Between Loving Someone & Being In Love
I also find this very interesting - The 5 stages of love.
Not many gay couples makes it past stage 3 unfortunately, I am one of them and not by choice..
"You may think the grass is greener on the other side. But if you take the time to water and take care of yours, it will be just as green!"
Love Stage #1 - The Passionate Beginning
Love Stage #2 - Things Start to Get Serious
Love Stage #3 - Disillusionment
Love Stage #4 - Real Love
Love Stage #5 - You Start Making a Difference Together
The Love Stage #3 (which generally happens after 2-4 months)
When you reach this stage, you have a choice to make. You can do one of the following:
End the Relationship - When you do this, you're going to establish a pattern. Every serious romantic relationship is going to reach this stage sooner or later. If you don't stick it out this time, you'll eventually wind up here again with a different person.
Settle for Mediocrity - This is a popular choice for couples that don't believe in divorce or people who would rather be comfortable instead of starting over with someone new. They assume that this is just how their relationship is going to be, and they don't try to change it or leave it. They simply find ways to coexist with their partner.
Push Past It - Couples who are determined to last without settling for mediocrity learn how to push past the disillusionment stage. They figure out how to reconnect and deepen their love for each other. This is when you realize that love is a choice and that you have to choose it every day.
You can read the full article here about How To Last Through The 5 Stages Of Love
How to feel better about yourself?
I made a list of things of what I can offer, what I want and what is a deal breaker for me in a relationship.
The list might be out-of-this-world-crazy for the wrong person, but for the right man/woman it is just pure common sense!
I wrote it down on a piece paper the old fashion way, you know pen and paper.
What I can offer in a relationship?
What I want in a relationship?
What is a deal breaker in a relationship?
10 points from each question and the reason why.
It was so nice and clear to finally see what I can offer, want and don't want in my life.
You should try it too, I would love to go through your list with you and give you some feedback. Send me an email with your list when you are done!
Besos ♥ Peter Julius xx